One day you’ll find “the one.” I promise you will. It’s a lot of waiting, trust me, I would know. But hey, maybe you have found “the one” already, and you’re enjoying the time you two share together. But enjoy it fast, and enjoy it well. Because once you have found “the one,” life will never be the same. And when I say life will never be the same, I mean, IT (life) WILL BE AWESOME. I thought I’d found “the one” for me a few times, but only recently have I found my true “one” for me. So how can you find “the one?” Here’s my three-step plan that’s totally guaranteed to work.
Step 1: Identify your beliefs/ideals & life goals
This is probably the most important step in the plan to find “the one” for you. Before you do anything, make sure you have your ideals straight. How do you expect to make a decision about “the right one” for you, if you don’t know what you believe in? Make sure you know what you want to accomplish in life too. Many of us go about looking for “the one” and have no idea what we want to do with our careers once we find “the one.” It’s important that we as the pursuers in this scenario know how we feel going into the next stage in life, and one way of doing that with stability is by having your life goals figured out. It’s very simple to do also; just make a list, go back to add details of what each item’s importance means, and then rank them in terms of achievement/easiness/success rate/etc. whatever works for you. Once that’s all done, make sure you know who you are as a person. One reason why people struggle in finding “the one” for them early in life is because they’re still growing as a person. When someone hits college/early adulthood, they pretty much know the personality they’ve developed for themselves, the ideals and beliefs they’ve created, and how that will shape the way they look for “the one.” Finally, you must be able to communicate those ideals and life goals to anyone you talk to. When looking for “the one,” it’s super important to express your ideals and beliefs with coherency, so it’s understood what you’re looking for.
Step 2: Don’t back down
When you think you’ve found “the one” for you, don’t doubt it. Well, maybe at first. But you should know within some short (or long depending on your personality) amount of time if you’ve found “the one” for you. The problem with the human mind is that we’re programmed to look for the worst possible scenario. Culture has developed a strategy to lower our expectations, and when trying to make an important decision that will impact our future lives, we can’t rely on what someone or something else has to say about what WE want. It’s our decision and our life that the decision impacts, so stick with it. Don’t doubt yourself. Just because something you might choose doesn’t feel right doesn’t mean the alternative is better. That’s why you need to make sure your ideals are straightened out. There’s a method to the madness. So when you think you’ve found “the one” for you, don’t question your judgement; stick with your gut. It’s much easier to second guess your way out of happiness, so try NOT to do that. Just follow your heart. You’ve probably made the right decision to make your life better.
Step 3: Have fun!
Seriously, there’s no fun in pursuing “the one” if you can’t have fun doing it! Just don’t get nervous and tense when pondering huge decisions. There’s nothing wrong with looking for “the one” at multiple times during your life, it’s what we’re supposed to do. So why not enjoy it while it lasts? You’re only gonna be pursuing “the one” once, and once you’ve found “the one” for you, another adventure begins. So make sure you don’t worry about it too much, and have some fun.
So there you have it! I’ve basically handed you a lifetime of happiness. I followed this plan exactly, and it led me to finding the Peppermint Hot Chocolate at Starbucks today, the true “one” for me. I realized that I needed something warm to drink before church this morning, that I LOVE Starbucks, and that it would benefit me to go there. I also decided that I couldn’t survive the morning without that rich, chocolate taste from that awesome holiday cup they now offer. I thought about getting a mocha instead, but again, you can’t back down. So guys, the plan works just like I said! Seriously, this formula works on any kind of food purchase I’ve made over the past few weeks. I just can’t believe that I’ve found “the one” for me! Now it’s your turn. Go.